From: Kenneth Van Oost (kennethvanoost@belgacom.net)
Date: Mon 30 May 2005 - 20:02:41 GMT
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From: Scott Chase <osteopilus@yahoo.com>
> Anyway you might want to consider the possible
> divergence between what women think men desire and
> what men actually desire. When things get out of
> kilter, the woman might make herself so skinny as to
> be less attractive to the men who actually prefer more
> robust appearance (at least more robust than the
> extremely skinny appearance of someone starving
> themselves for their self-perceptions).
Scott,
I do think that isn 't the case here !
Mens desire for the skinny ones is prompted by their natural evolutionary
selected tendency to chase for the fit/ the healthy and for those full of
energy.
Todays explanation is however influenced by our moral conceptions about
these things. We must be fair to say that it is rather the " young ones"
that
men are after not quite the skinny ones. Young equals fitness/ good health
and energetic. But how can you call yourself civilized if men are chasing
the
young and the restless rather then the skinny and the sick !?
It is a natural tendency to search for the best possible female to give
your sperm to. Although many say men float around and it doesn 't
really matter to whom they give their dirt ( females tend to choose more
carefully), but I think that isn 't quite true.
The todays still existing desire for skinny girls ( thus young ones) is a
heritage of our dark past_ young females, even children were the best
possible potential partners. Although men have an evolutionary interest
to seperate the barren children from adult females, like women have an
evolutionary interest to expose their fertility, like girls have one with
their
infertility.
But I think that is somewhat changed over the eons. In those years, like
Miller says on pg 208 of his book The Mating Mind, men chose young
females for their fertility. Each and every sign of youth, like he argues,
bigger breastst would be favored by men. It was for men important to
have children early in life ( genes want to survive remerber).
Women could have thus more children, were more able to care for
even more and help was around ( their own (grand)mother.
What women think men want is already fixed from the early start
of our species.
We want them young, fertile, fit, in good shape and full of energy.
Women acknowledged these facts and coped with our desires,
bigger breasts, like Miller says were one of the results.
Lucky me!
Regards,
Kenneth
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